Once you know what you want in your life, how do you make it happen? Today’s blog explores the critical step to transform your list of dreams into a list of accomplishments.
Wanting It Is Not Enough – Part 1
The first and most critical step to go from wanting to do something to actually getting it done.
The Biggest Lie You Tell Every Day
I don’t know. Have you ever noticed how often we use that phrase? When we think about verbal pauses, many of us immediately think of “um” and “uh” but we often forget about this funny little string of words that we throw around to fill awkward silences or to deflect our discomfort. Today, we consider how these three little words, when used unconsciously in this manner, can rob you of your credibility and make you a liar.
Doing the Hard Things
Ever wonder why you haven’t accomplished all of your dreams? Today we get to the root of the problem. You might be surprised with the answer!
“I Wish…”
How eliminating two simple words from your vocabulary can change your life.
No, It Doesn’t Have to Be This Way
Early on, many of us realize that working 70 hours/week does not create a happy life, no matter the paycheck. It is not exactly the life you dreamt of. We hate that having a family is often seen as a detriment to our career. We struggle with the notion that our personal lives must be planned taking consideration where we want our career to go. We stew and we ponder:
How can I make practicing law more live-able?
Perfectionism
Perfectionism is a way to stay stuck. To convince yourself that your efforts are noble. You simply want to do it right and you can’t move forward until you do that. It seems valid. It seems reasonable. But this is simply fear masquerading in a more “honorable” outfit. The fear of failure, dressed as perfectionism.
Your Legal Career: Having Your Own Back
When trying to make a big decision, so many of my clients get stuck in the quagmire of indulgent emotions.
Indulgent emotions are those emotions that seem really important. They feel like we should pay attention to them. They suck us into their black hole and keep us from moving forward.
They are indulgent because we linger and stay with those emotions for far too long; we allow those emotions to take over and before we know it, we have been out of the game for weeks. We’ve been “busy” worrying.
Selling Yourself Short
I have been thinking a lot about our emotions and how it is so amazing that those subtle, invisible vibrations in our bodies drive everything we do.
Contrails (Your Past is Stalking You)
When someone says to you: “Tell me about yourself.” How do you respond?
Most of us take this to mean the trifecta: What do you do? Are you married? Do you have kids?
The interesting thing about how we respond to these lines of questioning is that our responses almost invariably describe our pasts.
